The wall between private and shared

HeartWeave only works if your private room is genuinely private. So it's worth being exact about the boundary between what you keep to yourself and what your relationship shares. This is the most important thing to understand about the product, and we'd rather be precise than reassuring.

The wall, stated plainly

Nothing you say in your private room is shown to the other members of your space. Not the words. Not the drafts. Not a summary of them. Your private conversation stays your private conversation.

That's the whole promise, and it holds in both directions: you never see what someone else writes in their private room either.

What your private words do feed

Your private conversations aren't sealed off from everything. They inform one thing that is still yours alone: your own Relationship Map. That's a private picture of the relationship that only you can read. Your words shape your map, and your map stays with you.

They do not get copied into the shared space, and they are not handed to the Mediator or to the other person's assistant.

What the shared space is actually built from

Everyone in the space can see one shared picture of the relationship, the Relationship State. Here's the part that matters: it is derived to be member-safe. It's written to describe the relationship, where it stands, what's alive in it, what needs care, without exposing anyone's private words or singling out who said what privately.

So the shared space can reflect that the relationship is under strain around, say, planning the future, without ever revealing the private sentence you wrote about it. The relationship is described. The person is not exposed.

There is no "revoke" panel, and here's why we say so

Some tools promise a control panel where you inspect each thing that crossed between spaces and revoke it one by one. HeartWeave doesn't have that, and we won't pretend it does. The protection isn't a switch you have to manage. It's the design: your private words simply aren't shared, and the shared picture is built to be safe by construction, not by you policing it afterward.

We think that's a stronger promise than a dashboard. A dashboard implies your private words are floating somewhere shared, waiting for you to pull them back. They aren't.

The short version

• What you write privately is never shown to other members.
• Your private words shape only your own private Relationship Map.
• The shared Relationship State describes the relationship without exposing anyone's private words.
• The boundary is built in, not left to you to enforce after the fact.

For how all of this is stored and how deletion works, see privacy and your data.