Our mirror
What everyone in the space sees: Where we stand, Our visions, the Record and Our pattern, built from the shared space and the record only.
Our mirror is the one picture of the relationship that everyone in the space sees. Where My map is yours alone, the mirror is common ground, and it is written in "we" and "us".
Opening it
Our mirror opens from the Shared room bar. A segmented bar picks the section, and "Everyone in this space sees this." sits under it. The section you opened last is remembered on your device, per space.
Where we stand
The "Where do we stand?" button, a count line (how many items are open, how many wait on you, how many commitments), and "What you're working through": the open items with each person's status. See Visions and Where do we stand and Open items and bringing things across.
Our visions
"Lay our visions side by side", and the result once everyone has brought theirs: where you meet, where you differ and both can live, where they collide, and what only one of you named. No score, no percentage.
Record
One row per kind with its count. Tap a kind for its entries, with Confirm, Edit, Decline, Release and Bring this up on each. Sessions and "What we've brought" are rows here too. See The record.
Our pattern
Where the space is (the climate), What we name together, The loop we get stuck in with Ways out, What works, Strengths, and Moments that mattered to us. There is no list of shared values or visions here; the record's value and vision kinds hold those.
What it is built from
Shared evidence only: the shared conversation and its summaries, what members brought across, and the record. Never a map, never a private room. Our pattern stays empty until two people have written in the shared space.
What the mirror derives names no one: "when one of us reaches, the other steps back", not a name. Only brought items and record entries carry a name, because a person put it there.
What it never says
No score, no percentage, no verdict about the relationship, and never whether to stay or go. "Where do we stand?" answers with what is open, what has moved and when, each person's marks and what each brought about what they need, with dates.
When it changes
On any night the shared room had messages, the mirror is rewritten and the morning message says "Our mirror changed" if it did. The record section updates live: a confirmation or an edit shows for everyone the moment it happens. See Overnight and the morning message.
Your counselor
A therapist or coach you bring in sees the confirmed record, open items, commitments and sessions, not Our pattern and not Our visions. See Your counselor.
Our mirror has read the shared space only since 2026-10-15.